The people of the Philippines have distinctly diverse personalities from those of Americans and Europeans. If you plan to try and meet someone from the Philippines, you will need to become familiar with their culture and customs.

If you are hoping to find a Filipina woman that will be subservient to you and allow you to be the Lord of your house, you picked the wrong culture. The Philippines is a Matriarchal society in which the woman is in charge of the household. The man works, brings home the check and gives it to the woman. She has the final say in matters of the home.

With this being said, Filipino's are also the most loving, caring, thoughtful and generous women that you will ever meet. They are extremely nurturing, family oriented, supportive and loyal. In my opinion a man cannot find a better wife than a woman who has been brought up in the Philippine culture.

How to meet someone special from the Philippines.

With the advent of the computer age, finding that certain special someone in a land 10,000 miles away is as easy as a few clicks. There are many on line sources for Filipina women who are seeking an American or European man.

As I walk the streets, malls and resort areas of the Philippines I see foreign men with Filipina women every place I go. It is not unusual to find a much older man with a very young Filipina woman. In this culture women do not mind a man who is older, in fact they enjoy a more mature man who is able to take care of her.

What is found to be "Good Looks" or "Handsome" to a Filipina woman is not the same as the women in the United States or Europe find attractive. Because many times people are attracted to what is different from themselves, Filipino's love men who look different from the normal Filipino man. They love guys with with "big noses". I know this sounds funny, but it is true. Filipinos have smaller, flatter noses and they admire the larger more "pointy" noses of Americans and Europeans.

You have light skin, they have dark skin, you are taller, they are shorter. You have lighter hair, they have darker hair. The differences that you were born with are attractive to a Filipina woman. Before you think that only light skinned men with light hair are attractive, many Filipino's fall in love with darker skinned, dark haired men. Sometimes just being from a completely different culture other than their own is enough of an attraction to start the fire of a wonderful relationship.

Do's and Don'ts, the negative sides of finding someone from a foreign country.

Every year the United States Department of Immigration deports thousands of men and women who married an American citizen for the purpose of securing a Green Card. Sadly, there are many men and women in the Philippines who will say anything and do anything to come to the United States to escape the difficult life they have in the Philippines.

Be careful. Take your time. Plan to spend a few months on line chatting, writing back and forth and talking on the phone before you make a decision to come to the Philippines to visit you new friend.

Plan ahead of time to make at LEAST three trips to the Philippines to visit your potential life-mate before you make a commitment to marry. Too many come to the Philippines, and on the first visit marry their Filipina or Filipino and find out later that they made a terrible mistake.

It is even more important to get to know someone from a distant land before you make a commitment for life, than it is in the U.S. or Europe. What you see exhibited as a wonderful and loving personality may actually be hiding a very angry and otherwise unpleasant person beneath. Take the time to really get to know the person to whom you may spend all the rest of your days and nights with.

It is important to see a person in a difficult or stressful situation to see how they react when placed under stress. It is important to see a person at their worst as well as their best in order to determine whether or not you can handle living with them when they are bad as well as good.

Wait until you see someone angry, frustrated, impatient, selfish and  grouchy before you say "I Do". Too many people come to the Philippines and take a mate for life before they really know the kind of person they are marrying. This inevitably leads to divorce and possible deportation of the foreign spouse if withing the first two years of the marriage.

Don't get caught up in the mystery of a foreign love in a tropical distant land that clouds your better judgment and keeps you from making a lifelong mistake. Remember, once you say "I Do" you are making a commitment for life before your spouse and to God. Neither will take it lightly when you decide to break your vows and end the marriage. Take your time and make sure before the final commitment.

The Negative side for the Filipina Spouse.

If you are a woman from the Philippines, you also need to really take time to get to know your Foreign boyfriend. Find our what angers him. Listen to that inner sense that God gave you. A woman has an "intuition" that a man does not have that guides her. Listen to that intuition. If it is telling you that this is not a good man, stop the relationship immediately. Too many Filipina's are battered and abused when they come to the United States or Europe. Remember that many men come to the Philippines to find a wife because they can't find one in the U.S. They have problems or personalities that are destructive and abusive. Get to know the guy you are interested in before you become his wife.

Do you dislike a man who drinks or smokes? Then find out if he indulges in these habits first before you make a commitment. Does he believe in the same God that you do? There is a world of heartache when you marry someone who does not worship in the same way you do. If you are a Christian, do not marry a non believer or someone who claims to be a Christian but does not live a life dedicated to the Lord. It is not worth it to come to the United States only to discover that the man you married is abusive and manipulative, does not want to honor God in his life or your marriage, or is a completely different man that you thought he was.

If my comments are offensive to anyone, I do not apologize. The statements I have made here are true and from my own personal experience with those who have married foreign spouses and later discovered that the person they thought they were marrying was not the actual person they married. If I can save even one person the personal pain and heartache that comes from marrying someone before they have a chance to really know them, then my comments here have served a good purpose.